Listen With Your Eyes

When I'm reading someone's mind, I'm paying attention to everything about them, from speech patterns to ways of standing, a little bit of body language, and a generous helping of intuition.

The fact is that I am listening to people less with my ears, and mostly with my eyes. 

Have you ever noticed that when someone says they are feeling "fine", their body language will tell you how they really feel? If their posture is slumped, they may in fact feel tired or a little sad. If they say it with a snappy tone, they might be a little irritated. Of course, asking for clarification about what "fine" means can open the doors to wider understanding.

The key is to listen with your eyes as well as your ears.

Now don't go out buying dozens of books on body language, because there's a secret out there: they only tell 30% of the story. Body language and NLP are really tools with very little import, no matter what the hype says. Body language and language patterns vary from person to person, region to region, culture to culture. There is no universal, and woe to the person who starts profiling other people on their body language without these nuanced insights!

Listen with your eyes, your ears and your intuitive, gut feelings. They can help you connect to others better, understand yourself more completely, and enrich your life!

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